You are the sum of the 5 closest people to you. Think about it - actually, think about the 5 people you spend the most time with. Do you like them? Are they interesting? Do they share or support your values? Do they give compassion and empathy to you and others? Do they like the books and music you like. Do they complement you? Do you like them as in really, really like them? Or are you hanging around people because ... well, you are not quite sure. Maybe you think they have been your friend(s) for a long, long time. Maybe you think your friend(s) has seen you through some tough times. Maybe you think you don't need them but they need you. Well, times change and so have you. You are not the same person you were yesterday. You are certainly not the same person you were 5 years ago. Look around at who you are giving your time too and make sure they are really supporting who you are and how you want to be defined. Make sure the top 5 people you spend the most time with really deserve your time and energy. This is part of what mindfulness means. Turning your attention and awareness inward and making sure the relationships you spend time on really matter and support you now.